Skip to main content

Children and Being Sweet to Strangers

Children sometimes have a remarkable way to give adults life lessons. One of the lessons I get a few weeks ago is to be less suspicious to strangers. Just relax and give your best smile to strangers. Who knows what impact could your smile brings to that stranger life. :)

Para siswa SMP suatu SLB. Perhatikan, nggak ada yang nggak ketawa di foto ini. Their circumstance doesn't keep them from laughing so hard.:")

Saturday, February 4th 2017

This morning, I had something to do at the campus. As I walked there, I met a little girl carrying a bucket of water. Her hip tilted to her right side, because of the heavy burden she had. Her hair was done in a neat ponytail. Her skin had a color of golden tan, typical Javanese feature. She was probably around 9 or 10 years old. As we came closer and our eyes met, I realized, she had been looking at me expectantly the whole time. It's as if she'd been waiting for me to do something. So I smiled slowly, anticipating her feedback. Surprisingly, she smiled to me as broadly as I would to a nice friend. I felt guilty for smiling half-heartedly earlier. Had I known she'd be smiling that wide, I would not hold back my smile.

Then I walked again for some length, less than a kilometer, till I met another sweet girl. This one looked a little older than the one before. She wore school uniform. She brought a backpack. Certainly, she was just going home from school. Just like the previous, this older girl also looked at me expectantly. I should have learnt from my last encounter, that I could smile broadly to her. Yet, I was scared. Of what? I didn't even understand. Maybe of being rejected. But I tried to smile anyway. Slowly. And... She smiled back. Broadly and with wide eyes! Gosh... I should have predicted her response. Another wave of guilty washed over me. As I walked another five steps, I couldn't help myself to look back at her. The girl was still there. She turned herself back, so that she could look at me. Probably wondering, why did I smile to her? For the last time, I smiled and went on.

That moment, I wondered. Why do adults hold back their smile and niceties to strangers, while children would just do it, without too much thought?

I think it has something to do with how children perceive the world. For them, this world is filled with hope and love. They are not suspicious at all. They don't understand fight and war. They don't understand grey. What they know is life is beautiful, in which they have so much wishes and dreams soon to be reached.

Sometimes we need to learn from those bubbly, happy, children. Sometimes we have to lower our criticizing urge and give compliments instead. Sometimes we should see, that life is amazing despite its flaws. And that having a perspective of a kid, who can see a silver lining even in the darkest cloud, will come handy in any time hardships burst into our life.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Is There a Way to Make Everyone Loves You?

I guess there is no way we can please everyone, let alone ask everyone to love us. You can still try to make people like you, though. You can be: a good listener a helpful friend a supportive family member a loving partner, but there is no guarantee that you will be loved by the deeds you have done. People are unconsciously conditioned to like or dislike certain things or other people. They have their own perception of what's good or bad, which could be quite different from your perception of good and bad. So... In the end, just be unapologetically you . Stay true to who you are. Know that whenever someone judges you, they actually judge their perception of you. Which most possibly is not the real you. Know that any concept that molds our worldly status is just, well... worldly. Ephemeral. Impermanent. Keep spreading love and kindness. And never let anyone or anything stops you from doing good. Because you can't be perfect for everyone, but you can always try to do your best ev

Current Favorite Things

Here are some things I've been obsessed to this past month: 1. Van & Camp Life on Pinterest source: Pinterest Source: Pinterest 2. Videos of Tiny Apartments on Youtube    I'm officially obsessed with beautiful minimalist home design!  3. Classical Music My favorite is Satie's Gymnopedie no.1 . I listen to it almost every night before sleep. The song brings a feeling of yearning, like being pulled back and forth through time. Like longing for something happening in the past to be happened once more. Put me in between the feeling of wistfulness and gratitude.  This youtube video is one of the best plays of Gymnopedie no.1. It's actually just a usual Gymnopedie no.1 with some rain sound in the background. But what make it good is the nostalgic stories people wrote on the comment section . Reading those stories while listening to the music is super calming. 4. Weekly English Chit Chat Club It's been almost a month since the beginning of this club. At first, Mbak Zia

Throwback

Setelah dua kali ops ke daerah Gunungkidul dan melewati kota Wonosari, aku teringat sesuatu. Awal kelas 12 dulu, aku pernah hidup selama satu minggu bersama orang-orang desa di Wonosari.  Kegiatan itu disebut live in. Aku sebenarnya sudah pernah menulis soal live in di blog ini, tapi tidak lengkap. Ada tulisan lengkapku tentang live in, yang kubuat karena diwajibkan sekolah (hehe), tapi hanya dipublish di blog kelasku. Nah, demi mempermudah dokumentasi, aku mau copy paste tulisan lengkap live in-ku ke sini. hehehe.  *** Memilih Bahagia oleh Eunike Adiprasasti / XIIA2/ 11 Hari pertama sampai di Wonosari saya merasa takut sekaligus excited. Siapa yang akan jadi keluarga saya? Bagaimana rumah saya nanti? Apa saja yang harus saya kerjakan? Dan, pertanyaan  yang paling sering muncul adalah apakah saya akan menikmati hidup di sana? Saya bukan orang yang melihat situasi hanya dari nikmat atau tidak nikmatnya saja. Saya punya rasa gengsi yang tinggi untuk mengakui bahwa saya